David had to be gone really early this morning so by the time I got up Eamon and Liam were eating their cereal at the kitchen table. I walked in and said, "Good Morning Boys...Did you see dad before he left"? They smiled and said yes and we have a message for you, from dad. "Mom you are the most important person in our family and dad loves you very much". Talk about jerkin a tear at 7:15am. I smiled and they smiled and kind of giggled. I was putting together their lunches it all started to make sense. Hummm...how lucky am I to have such a special man in my life and more importantly how wonderful to have a husband who is teaching my boys...so early...how to someday treat their wives. I called David and told him thank you and he said the same thing...It is important for the boys to know how I feel about you. WOW!!!.
(P.S. please note that this is the downfall of having my so called diary ...public...you get to hear the stuff that is sappy but I need to write it down so that I will remember and so that the kids can read about it someday)
I have spent most of the day thinking about how important it is to practice what you preach. I watch how David treats me and I know it is just like how his dad treated his mom. His dad always gave the credit to his mom and always put her on a pedastal. David continues to take care of all of my needs no matter what it is. He was influenced by what he saw when he was raised. I too have certain expectations based on what I grew up with. My parents are still happily married and although my family structure was slightly different I came away with many influences and many expectations when it comes to a relationship. David's mother stayed home and raised 7 kids while my mother worked fulltime while my sister and I grew up. Different situations and they both produce very interesting results.
I feel like I am getting my own class on how generations repeat themselves and sometimes bad situations and abusive relationships can repeat themselves if for nothing else because a child watches and learns from it. This is so powerful but yet such a simple concept. We have so much power as a parent or caregiver to stop bad cycles and help create positive change.
I am really thinking that based on what Eamon and Liam know already, by the time they are ready for a marriage they will be in high demand based on what their father has taught them.